Ladybug's school troubles

Second grade whoas! As part of the citizenship portion of second grade, Ladybug's school sends home a daily behavior calendar that is to be signed and sent back. If there is a behavior issue that day, a checkmark appears in that day's box with a brief explanation of the infraction. If there is no issue, an ink stamp is placed in the box. This is nothing new, her school has done this since Kindergarten. And in the last 2 years, she has probably received 6 checks total, for 2 years worth of behavior. Well, let's just say we have surpassed that already and we are only 9 weeks into the year! This is ridiculous! So what exactly are these infractions you may wonder. Well, two involved playing or fidgeting with things in her desk (a calculator, & a pencil sharpener). One was for being on the wrong math problem when asked to give her answer out loud. One was a tardy, not to school, just not ready to start class exactly at 7:50 (all things put away, folder in box, and sitting at her desk). Another was for side stepping in line with another girl, not jumping or skipping or being loud or crazy, just walking sideways instead of forward. And finally, the other was for not remembering to put her green folder in the collection box. Okay, I think I am a pretty reasonable person. I can respect rules and try to teach my children respect for rules and authority, but OMG, these kids are 7-8 years old. They are creative and curious. Easily excited and yes, easily distracted. You don't give them calculators and not expect them to play with them. You can't ask parents to provide pencil sharpeners and have them in their desk and not realize these may peek some curiosity. If a student gets ahead of the class because the pace is too slow, should you really punish them? If school starts at 7:50 am, give the kids 5 minutes to get situated before giving them checks. And finally, how hard is it to gently ask a child for their folder if it is missing from the box when you need it. This beat down of a procedure is taking my "loves to be at school" princess and turning that love into fear and dread. She dreads bringing home her folder. Instead of discussing her day with joy and excitement, she starts her conversation with "mom, i did (or didn't) get a check!" Really! Not, "guess what I learned today" which was how she greeted me last year. It's tough, I used to think teaching her to respect the rules unconditionally was the right thing to do. But I see the defeat in her face when she does get a check and it breaks my heart. So, we have amended our approach to this whole thing. If she gets a check, well, we talk about it. If it is something truly behavioral that we can work on, we talk through it, and agree to try harder. If need be, she gets a privilege taken away. If it is something I don't feel is worth the beat down of her spirit, we let it go. A simple "well now we know NOT to do that again" and that's it. I seriously dislike this green folder thing, and so does Ladybug.